Chronic Pain and Avoiding Divorce
One of the most challenging aspects of dealing with chronic pain is it’s affects on relationships. Like many chronic conditions, chronic pain can start to take center stage in the relationship and affect many of the things that should be normally part of the relationship. Especially in spouse relationship, so much will change with the person in chronic pain as the activities gradually or quickly decrease. Intimacy becomes harder to focus on and paying attention to another person’s needs sometimes takes a distant back seat to dealing with the pain. In addition many people with chronic pain become irritable and “short” with those they know the best--- often the spouse takes the brunt of the pain the person is carrying.
It is easy at this stage for a person with chronic pain to feel guilty or angry or useless. Not only do they not give as they need to in the relationship, they become burdened by guilt. So often the emotional juice needed to build a relationship just isn’t there for the person in chronic pain. It is easy for this person to give into despair, particularly if there does not appear to be any light at the end of the tunnel regarding the chronic pain.
This person and spouse need a solution to this kind of chronic pain. Certainly the health of their relationship depends on it. But, not only that, they may be able to avoid a divorce.
To attack the problem though we need to ask: “what is Chronic Pain anyway?”
Well, we all know what pain is. But what is chronic pain? Well the purpose of pain is to help us avoid bad things happening to our body. When an injury happens, things hurt. That’s the way it’s supposed to be. That is called “acute pain”.
Chronic pain, however, is pain that lasts well after the 6 week time that it should normally take for an injury to get better. Some would say that you can’t call it chronic pain until it has lasted for 3 months. Either way the pain is lasting well after the injury.
There are many medical strategies to try to help deal with chronic pain and it is absolutely crucial that anybody who has chronic pain seek medical attention to figure out why they have it and what can be done about it. Nobody--- and I repeat nobody--- should ever deal with their chronic pain using alternative strategies until they have had a thorough evaluation.
Unfortunately for many people, after the evaluation there is the reality that their chronic pain is still with them. It just stays and stays and stays. In that case it becomes very reasonable to pursue alternative strategies as long as they are safe.
I have discovered that a very powerful nutrient grown right in the Sonoran Desert called
“betalains” may help to decrease chronic pain. At least that’s been the experience of some people who have been fortunate enough to get ahold of this nutrient.
Fortunately this nutrient can now be obtained through a whole food in drink form that actually tastes good. You can read the story about this very powerful nutrient and how it might help chronic pain at this site.
Stanley Lang
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